Dating female coworker

But if someone is showing you that he’s not hearing or respecting your no, then you need to be much more clear, and that means risking offending the person, because your right to assert your own boundaries needs to trump your desire to be nice.And when he lingers at your desk and disengaging isn’t getting the point across, be direct: “Bob, I need to work.I like to keep work separate from my personal life.” But since he knows that you’re hanging out with people from work socially, that won’t work …so you’re left with having to be even more direct: “No, thank you. And yes, you may feel rude, but he’s not getting your lighter message, so you need to be more direct.

(And yes, sure, people should pick up on cues, but not everyone does.When I am unable to drive him home from work, he still walks me to my car. I am getting the romantic vibe, yet I am not attracted to him.It seems to me that he does not have too many friendships outside of our working circle.Please don’t stand there.” Frankly, you also might need to stop driving him and your other coworker home after work, at least until you’ve re-built the boundary there. But it’s also rude to allow this guy to be strung along without telling him directly that you’d like him to stop, and more importantly, you’re entitled to speak up when someone is making you uncomfortable. I am having trouble deciding where to draw the line between personal business and professional business here, and I’m hoping you can weigh in with some advice on how much responsibility I have to get involved in this situation.

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